I am fully aware of the fact that the manuscript I have written, following this cover page, is not in vogue as far as culture is concerned; it is in vogue as far as custom is concerned; it is not in vogue as far as the Judicial System is concerned; it is not in vogue as far as Government is concerned, and I know it will not be in vogue as far as many people in the Church is concerned.
But...I have written regarding matters that ought to concern every person who is striving to please the Lord and walk in harmony with his Word in this age of paramount compromise and apostasy, "when everything that can be shaken is being shaken in order that those things which cannot be shaken might remain." (Hebrews 12)
Therefore, I ask you to read this timely article and manuscript with an open heart to simple Truths which will give you understanding and direction as to the right and proper definition of Marriage.
- Bishop Barry A. King
According to the faithful and reliable Word of the LORD our God - and the Word of the Lord is the guide and compass for all people throughout the world who are striving to please the LORD,
"Marriage is a Merger!" It is much like one corporation merging into and with another corporation.
Many changes will and must take place. Two sets of rules, regulations and policy must merge into togetherness to bring about a smooth function and operation of all parties involved. When this occurs, and over a period of time with many bumps and dips and curves in the road, it should bring about success.
Marriage is a Merger.Marriage is the lord God's idea! he instituted it! he designed it!
he brought the first human beings together in the merger.
Noah Webster, one of America's Founding Fathers, who has been forgotten, gave America our now famous First American Dictionary of the English language, the 1828 Edition, after 27 years. He labored and studied and researched to give our Founding Fathers and our Nation the definition of the words therein and of Marriage itself. He wrote, "MAR’RIAGE, n. [L.mas, maris.] The act of uniting a man and woman for life; wedlock; the legal union of a man and woman for life. Marriage is a contract both civil and religious, by which the parties engage to live together in mutual affection and fidelity, till death shall separate them. Marriage was instituted by God himself for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education of children.
"Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled." (Hebrews 13.)
1. A feast made on the occasion of a marriage.
The kingdom of heaven is like a certain king, who made a marriage for his son. (Matthew .22.)
2. In a scriptural sense, the union between Christ and his church by the covenant of grace. (Revelation 19.)"
(And many, many, many of the definitions in his dictionary use Bible statements and verses for further explanation and understanding and substantiation for very good definitions.)
Why did that forgoing definition about marriage change? It changed in order to accommodate culture and the will and lust of the people! if that definition by noah webster was good at the founding and beginning of our beloved nation,
why isn't it just as good in this generation?
Marriage is a merger! It is the merger of one human anatomy to another human anatomy. When this is accomplished, it brings about one of the fundamental God-ordained purposes for marriage and that is...that they will reproduce after their kind in order that the human race and the human anatomy will continue as it was from the beginning.
It is the merger of one male to one female!
It is a merger of one man to one woman!
It is a merger of two nervous systems!
It is a merger of two heads!
It is the merger of two different and respective wills.
It is the merger of two mind sets!
It is a merger of two sets of thought!
It is a merger of two sets of values!
It is a merger of two sets of convictions!
It is a merger of two different cultures!
It is a merger of various mind sets about money!
- One can be a conservative about money.
- One can be a spendthrift.
And yes, It is a merger of two different families!
The Courtship between the male and the female, one man and one woman, is just the beginning of the merger: with eye contact; facial expressions; attitudes; voice and verbiage exchanges, etc; apparel wearing language; geographical travels together; various modes of transportation together; numerous social meeting places and events, in the daytime and also in the evening, etc.; meeting her family and then his family, and the extended family and friends of both.
The Wedding is only the beginning of "a lifetime journey" merging two people together to form a smooth and peaceful operation in the family unit. (But remember! Anyone can get married! But it is the living together afterward that makes the difference and begins the process of "welding and molding" two people together for their perfection according to the Will of God.) This involves minutes, hours, nights, days, weeks, months, years, and decades, etc. It all helps in the merger of these two people through the tears, the joys, the pluses and the minuses, the additions and the subtractions, the misunderstandings and the understandings, the losses and the gains, in poverty and in plenty, in sickness and in health, etc.
Dr. A.T. Pierson, in the context of studying the Bible, coined the phrase, "The Law of First Mention."
The Definition of the Law of First Mention: "The principle that requires one to go to that
portion of the Scriptures where a doctrine is mentioned for the first time and to study the first occurrence of that particular doctrine in order to get the fundamental inherent meaning of that doctrine."
Gen 1:27 "So God created man in His Own Image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them." Mankind is the highest order of God's creation!
All other things were marvelously and merely spoken into existence by the Word of the Lord while mankind was Tailor-made by the handiwork of the Almighty, and made in... the vary Image of the LORD God.
King David of Israel, the beloved of the LORD, stated in his prayer and praise unto the LORD,
Psalm 139:13 "For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb.
Psa 139:14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
Psa 139:15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
Psa 139:16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them."
Take a moment in your rush through this vital and timely manuscript to think upon the handiwork of God. Notice the various and myriad systems of the human anatomy:
- Our Integumentary System
- Our Skeletal System
- Our Muscular System
- Our Nervous System
- Our Respiratory System
- Our Cardiovascular System
- Our Digestive System
- Our Endocrine System
- Our Immune/Lymphatic System
- Our Urinary System
- The Male Reproductive System
- The Female Reproductive System
The two sexes were designed and created by the LORD God for the purpose of human copulation, and...the reproduction after their kind in order to follow suit with all creation as it is with animals, with fish, with birds, with creeping things, etc. Notice what the Word of the Lord states...Genesis 1:28 "And God blessed Adam and Eve, and God said unto them, 'Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it.'"
If male sperm unites with a female egg "A MERGER OF THE MIRACULOUS" occurs. That merger is the beginning of "a child's life." However, if there is no life in the sperm substance and if there is no life in the egg substance then there won't be any life in the merger of the two together.
Then, the woman doesn't have to worry about getting pregnant. And the Pharmaceutical
companies, that make great financial profit from the sale of contraceptives and preventatives, can cease making these. If two lifeless substances, as the male sperm and the female egg, merge together, as they do in human copulation, how can these two lifeless substances form a life that brings about a child?
But there is life in the male sperm and there is life in the female egg. The union or merger of these two substances bring about conception and, thus,
the development of a human being begins. It is called "a child." Abortion is murder! Abortion destroys and kills a human being! Abortion kills life!
Two men cohabiting together cannot be reproductive sexually and a child be conceived! Two women cohabiting together cannot be reproductive sexually and a child be conceived! This sexual activity is wrong and against the LORD God. In fact, to Him, it is an abomination!
"If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them." (Leviticus 20:13)
Please notice how the Lord Jesus confirms that Law of First Mention when He answers
the Pharisees in Matthew's writings. Matthew 19:3 "The Pharisees also came unto Jesus, tempting him, and saying unto him, "Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?"
Mat 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, "Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
Furthermore, by the Law of First Mention we learn another principle that has never changed, from the days of Eden to the present time. And...if this principle is practiced, it will bless every marriage of a husband and wife, of a man and a women who are married.
Gen 3:16 "Unto the woman (Eve) the LORD God said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and
he shall rule over thee."
The last above statement is not in vogue in this nation and generation. In fact, there are some marriages in the Church that have major trouble with that foregoing statement. Someone in the marriage has never submitted to that Divine Principle in order to being about the blessing and the peace of God. However, if the marriage of a husband and wife will submit to that Divine Principle they will find blessing and peace.
All across America, in the nation's Courtrooms, Jud(g)e after Judge after Judge will often say, "Objection overruled." This is because the Defense Attorney will bring up an opposing issue or the Prosecuting Attorney will bring up an opposing point and the Judge will strike it down. And those Attorney's will rest with that decision. No contest! No quarrel! No debate! There are times in every marriage when the husband must rule over his wife and also "overrule" his wife and she is to rest in that decision. Job did this with his wife in their hour of tribulation, for we read, Job 2:9 "Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? Curse God, and die.
Job 2:10 "But Job said unto her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. What? Shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil? In all this did not Job sin with his lips."
Job overruled his wife for her foolish statement and suggestion that came from her faithless lips.
King David did this with his wife, Michal, at a time when he was rejoicing in the Lord as he brought the Ark of the Covenant to Jerusalem. Michal scolded David for his actions in front of the virgins of Israel and David reproved her, saying,
2Sa 6:14 "And David danced before the LORD with all his might; and David was girded with a linen ephod.
2Sa 6:15 So David and all the house of Israel brought up the ark of the LORD with shouting, and with the sound of the trumpet.
2Sa 6:16 And as the ark of the LORD came into the city of David, Michal Saul's daughter looked through a window, and saw king David leaping and dancing before the LORD; and she despised him in her heart.
2Sa 6:17 And they brought in the ark of the LORD, and set it in his place, in the midst of the tabernacle that David had pitched for it: and David offered burnt offerings and peace offerings before the LORD.
2Sa 6:18 And as soon as David had made an end of offering burnt offerings and peace offerings, he
blessed the people in the name of the LORD of hosts.
2Sa 6:19 And he dealt among all the people, even among the whole multitude of Israel, as well to the women as men, to every one a cake of bread, and a good piece of flesh, and a flagon of wine. So all the people departed every one to his house.
2Sa 6:20 Then David returned to bless his household. And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, 'How glorious was the king of Israel to day, who uncovered himself to day in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself!'
2Sa 6:21 And David said unto Michal, 'It was before the LORD, which chose me before thy father, and before all his house, to appoint me ruler over the people of the LORD, over Israel: therefore will I play before the LORD.
2Sa 6:22 And I will yet be more vile than thus, and will be base in mine own sight: and of the
maidservants which thou hast spoken of, of them shall I be had in honour.'
2Sa 6:23 Therefore Michal the daughter of Saul had no child unto the day of her death."
David overruled his wife, reproving her for her scolding and rebuking of him. The LORD God also shut up her womb for touching the anointed of God. He was the King of Israel. He was also a Prophet of God.
The New Testament teaching substantiates this Law of First Mention when the scriptures state...
Ephesians 5:22 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Eph 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Eph 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Eph 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Eph 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Eph 5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
The LORD God wants godly seed or offspring, and He also hates divorce!
Mal 2:11 "Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange god.
Mal 2:12 The LORD will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto the LORD of hosts.
Mal 2:13 And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.
Mal 2:14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
Mal 2:15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That He might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
Mal 2:16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away (divorce): for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously."
A successful and blessed marriage between a husband and wife cannot experience harmony and peace if there are "two heads" in the household. After all, nature itself tells us that anything with two heads is a freak of nature. It is either dead or in the zoo. Subjection and submission on the part of the wife to her husband's Headship and Leadership is something that she initiates herself. It is not something that the husband has power to make her do. She learns, as she walk with God, to submit voluntarily in her spirit and in her will to the authority in her marriage. And the husband must see to it that he loves her a his own flesh.
Doctor James Dobson stated in one of his radio broadcasts, "God put the man in the office but she will seek to control him." The husband is the Head of the wife. There are times when he will and he must make the decision even though it is contrary to what she wants. Even if his decision is wrong, it is right for the wife to submit to his Headship and Leadership. No! No! No! She is never required to submit to his Leadership and Headship if he is requiring her to sin. Never! Never! Never! Look at Ananias and Sapphira in Acts chapter 5. It was very costly for her when she agreed and submitted to the plot and scheme concerning the money. Adam submitted to Eve and brought sin upon all of mankind and to the whole world. Adam walked into this sin and transgression with his eyes open but Eve was deceived, for the Holy Scriptures state, "And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:14)
But...according to the Scriptures the blame fell upon Adam, as it is written...
Romans 5:12 "Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
Rom 5:13 (For until the law sin was in the world: but sin is not imputed when there is no law.
Rom 5:14 Nevertheless death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over them that had not sinned after the similitude of Adam's transgression, who is the figure of him that was to come.
Rom 5:15 But not as the offence, so also is the free gift. For if through the offence of one many be dead, much more the grace of God, and the gift by grace, which is by one man, Jesus Christ, hath abounded unto many.
Rom 5:16 And not as it was by one that sinned, so is the gift: for the judgment was by one to condemnation, but the free gift is of many offences unto justification.
Rom 5:17 For if by one man's offence death reigned by one; much more they which receive abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness shall reign in life by one, Jesus Christ.)
Rom 5:18 Therefore as by the offence of one judgment came upon all men to condemnation; even so by the righteousness of one the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life.
Rom 5:19 For as by one man's disobedience many were made sinners, so by the obedience of one shall many be made righteous.
Rom 5:20 Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:
Rom 5:21 That as sin hath reigned unto death, even so might grace reign through righteousness unto
eternal life by Jesus Christ our Lord."
Olgivanna Wright, the widow of the famed American architect, Frank Lloyd Wright, stated, "I am pleased to be the wife, I have never objected to reflected glory." One once occasion Frank Lloyd Wright's picture was on the front cover of Time magazine. On another occasion Olgivanna Wright's picture was on the front cover of Life magazine.
Phyllis Schlafly is an American Constitutional Lawyer, conservative activist, author, and founder of the Eagle Forum. She is known for her staunch social and political conservatism, her opposition to modern feminism and for her campaign against the proposed Equal Rights Amendment. Schlafly founded the Eagle Forum in the 1970s and the Eagle Forum Education & Legal Defense Fund, St. Louis. As of 2013[update], she remains the President of both organizations and maintains a presence on the lecture circuit. Read what she wrote concerning, "The Feminization of the U.S. Military." One of her statements is as follows, "For 25 years, the feminists have been demanding a gender-neutral military. What they really want is for feminists to give the orders, with the men cowed into submission, and Bill Clinton is helping them to pursue their goal."
Are we making sissies out of our boys? One of our great preachers of righteousness, who would have made an excellent attorney, stated after watching a young man walk by, "He's had too much mama!"
The LORD God spoke very clearly by the mouth of His holy prophet, Isaiah, saying of the people of God, "As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths." (Isaiah 3:12)
A very happy marriage is when a husband plays his Biblical role in the marriage and the wife plays her
Biblical role in the marriage and they make the LORD God the center of their marriage and of their home. There will be blessing and there will be peace.
The moon is a reflection of the sun's light. Every marriage ought to witness the wife being the reflection of her husband's light and labor. After all, the LORD God saw that it was not good for the man to be alone. So....He made him a "help," meet for him. The scriptures do not call her a "help mate." She is referred to as a "help," meet for him. His assistant! His helper! She was designed and made by the LORD God to fit into the man's life in every way. Therefore, if the man is a farmer, she is a farmer's wife! If the man is a Banker, she is a Banker's wife. If the man is a Preacher of righteousness, she is a Preacher's wife.
That is the Principle and the Laws of First Mention that the LORD God set forth at the beginning.
Yes, Marriage is a Merger, and is an ongoing work and relationship between a man and a woman for a lifetime, and does not need to be aborted or re-defined!! This is the LORD God's definition of Marriage and it has stood for more than 200 years in America.Who has the authority to change it now? Who has the right to change it now? Are they taking the place of God? Who gave them permission to change the definition of Marriage?
Marriage is Bondage!
"Art thou bound unto a wife? Seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife." - I Corinthians 7:27
"The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord." - I Corinthians 7:39
And so, you say you are a husband. Do you know what the word "husband" means? It simply means "house-band." The husband is the band around the marriage and the home that holds it together like bailing wire to a bail of hay.
It is my pray and hope that by all the foregoing I have provoked some to love and good works in this age of Church apostasy, even as the scriptures state in Hebrews 10:24.
Marriage does have an expiration date: "Until death do us part!" Marriage is for better or for worse, and...for keeps!
The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
A husband and wife are two of the cords, The Lord Jesus is the third cord.